Herbalists often get to best know the plants that they need the most. If you’ve been around here a while, you’ve likely heard me speak about the steep learning curve I’ve had with healthy boundaries. I have a whole class on Patreon about it. So, when I make an energetic medicine to help support boundaries, I come to it with pretty extensive personal experience.

Here’s a little rundown of the ingredients:

Essence of Black Tourmaline:

Black tourmaline is one of the most grounding stones I’ve ever worked with. Part of being able to express healthy boundaries, means one must actually be in their body. When we’re floating above or feeling not really, fully here, it makes it much, much harder to notice when our boundaries feel weak or if they exist at all.

Essence of Holly:

Holly is a threshold plant, helping to navigate between the seen and unseen. Holly helps us balance the ways where we haven’t yet learned to navigate the unseen realms. If our difficulties with healthy boundaries comes from being so psychically open or empathic that we can’t identify where we end and others begin, holly will help bring that into focus.

Essence of Horse Nettle:

Lack of healthy boundaries makes us more willing to pick up on other people’s stuff and carry it as if it were our own. When I first made this essence, I saw the thorny stems of horse nettle as a comb of sorts, combing through my auric field and removing any kinds of debris I may have picked up throughout my day.

Essence of Poison Ivy:

Queen of boundaries! Think of what poison ivy’s role is in the forest: you shall not pass! As far as plant teachers for boundaries, there is none greater than poison ivy.

Essence of Pokeweed:

On a physical level, pokeweed supports the lymphatic system. When I think of the equivalent on an energetic level, I think of pokeweed helping to move any stagnation we may be holding onto within our emotional or energetic bodies. Sometimes, when we have poor boundaries, we end up holding onto things that we did not give ourselves the opportunity to communicate - at times, holding onto certain unexpressed things for years and years!

Essence of Rose Quartz:

This is where the “loving” piece comes in. Societally, we have some very strange ideas about boundaries. We’re usually either instructed to have no will of our own, to go along with the crowd, to ignore our own needs and/or we’re instructed to be a brick wall, where the default is defense. Both types of weak boundaries are equally exhausting and unsustainable.

Rose Quartz brings us right back into our hearts. Can we recognize that others experiences are not our responsibility without going into narcissistic aggression? Can we open more to the suffering of those around us without becoming completely fried? Rose Quartz thinks so.

Essence of Tobacco:

Tobacco brings a deeper, more sacred perspective into our boundary work. What is the bigger picture here? How were our boundaries injured in the first place? Is there any wisdom to be gleaned from our experience? Can we evolve into a better way? Tobacco offerings a blessing for the places within ourselves and the experiences we carry which we find untenable.

Essence of Wormwood:

Wormwood insisted on being included in the blend this time! As the name implies, on a physical level wormwood is anti-parasitic. I’ve had great success with candida and parasite cleansing with the assistance of wormwood capsules. On an energetic level, in a way that compliments but differs from poke & horse nettle, wormwood helps us to release old, stuck patterns within the self that are ready to be let go of.

Fennel seed infused vodka:

Fennel seed is something I often reach for in order to help support my digestion. I see including fennel within the blend as a way to support one in energetically “digesting” so to speak, the boundary work that arises in tandem with the flower essences. Plus it's tasty :)

Raw Honey:

Famously, a spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down. And this is in part why I like to include honey in my essences blends. Yes, if a medicine tastes good, it encourages one to want to take it more, but the flavor of sweetness also brings with it a certain opening - I think it supports one to open more to the other energetic aspects of the blend.