What a miracle to have made it as far as we have. We all endure many traumas, painful experiences, and collective sufferings starting the moment we are born.
Sometimes I become aware of this as I watch people walking down the street. Everyone holds many stories beneath their controlled exteriors. Many people we pass by on the street, at the coffee shop, in line at the grocery store are currently experiencing deep pain but have become skilled in keeping it hidden. Life is hard and yet we are resilient. Everyone of us has lived through suffering.
Congratulate yourself on making it this far and be kind.